Getting what you ask for
Imagine writing your Christmas wishlist and getting exactly what is on it – no more, no less. Would you be pleased?
There are three types of gifts – the exact match, nearly but not quite, and total surprises.
The exact match
So, you asked and you got. It's exactly what you would have bought yourself with the same money.
Nearly but not quite
These are things that you asked for but the person changed something at their own discretion. It could be smaller or bigger. Maybe you asked for a book or a jigsaw and they chose the topic. These are a bit more exciting because of the surprise element.
Giving someone a gift like this requires more thought, and risk, but gives the opportunity to introduce a new interest into someone's world.
Total surprise gifts can be sensible or silly gifts, but either way they are a bit of a risk. If they don't like it, you can wonder why you bothered going to all the trouble of thinking of something different so try not to invest too much emotion or money in them.
But if they do, you can change their world.
Surprise gifts are often things that they don't take to immediately (why did you get me that? do you even know me?) but once the initial reaction is past and they start thinking about it, you could be onto a real winner.
Perhaps the ideal is to get a mixture of gifts – something you asked for, things that are fairly safe, and at least one or two total surprises.
It's the total surprise gifts that are the memorable ones.